A good level of self-esteem helps us deal with life better, but sometimes it takes a knock. How can you rebuild it so you feel happier and more confident?
Checklist for improving self-esteem
1 – Remember that you are special and unique and that you deserve as much consideration from others as you give to them.
2 – Don’t judge yourself only on the things you feel you did wrong or that need improvement. By all means, learn from your failures, and be ready to do better next time. But notice your strengths and the things you’re good at as well.
3 – Think – what do your friends and loved ones like about you? Ask them if you have to! Try to reinforce those qualities and be even better at those things.
4 – Never compare yourself with others. Everybody is different and you have good qualities that no other person has.
5 – Don’t put yourself down; nobody’s perfect.
6 – Accept that it’s normal to make mistakes. If you make one, take responsibility for it, apologise, and try to put it right.
7 – Having friends who are positive about life’s challenges can influence you into seeing life in the same light and, eventually, help to build your self-esteem.
And remember that, if low self-esteem is having a regular negative impact on your life, you can get in touch to see how hypnotherapy can help you.
Author: Debbie Waller is a professional therapist, specialising in stress, anxiety and related issues, including gut-directed hypnotherapy to help with the symptoms of IBS. She also offers EMDR/Blast which is used for trauma, PTSD, phobias and OCD. For more information on any of these services, phone 01977 678593.
Researcher: Rae Waller is an experienced researcher and writer with a special interest in mental health issues. Rae offers drafting, fact-checking, proofreading, and editing for anything from a leaflet to a website, a blog or a book, and can also provide diversity reading, especially for LGBTQ+ and autism-related issues. Please contact rae@debbiewaller.com for further information.
