Boosting Your Self Esteem
Self esteem is having confidence in yourself, because the image you have of yourself inside your mind is a positive one.
Those with low self esteem have trouble seeing their own very real skills and strengths; they tend to worry too much about what others think of them or about mistakes they might make.
People with high self esteem are usually happy and confident. They do not need to bully or intimidate others, but will do what they think is right even if those around them disapprove. They don't think they are good at everything, either: it's more that they accept themselves as they really are, and feel good about who and what that reality is.
So, put a spring in your step with these self esteem boosters!
- Remember that you are special and unique, and that you deserve as much consideration from others as you give to them.
- Don’t judge yourself only on the things you feel you did wrong or that need improvement. By all means learn from your failures, and be ready to do better next time. But notice your strengths and the things you’re good at as well.
- Think - what do your friends and loved ones like about you? Ask them if you have to! Try to reinforce those qualities and be even better at those things.
- Never compare yourself with others. Everybody is different and you have good qualities that no other person has.
- Don’t put yourself down; nobody’s perfect. Accept that it’s normal to make mistakes. If you make one, take responsibility for it, apologise, and try to put it right.
- Having friends who are positive about life’s challenges can influence you into seeing life in the same light, and eventually help to build your self-esteem.
If your self esteem is very low, and you find it hard to do any of these things, enlist some help from a therapist or counsellor.
ebooks relevant to this topic:
How to Build Self Esteem £2.99
(c) Debbie Waller
Advice is given for reference only, and does not replace advice
given by a medical professional.